fidesquaerens (marta_bee) wrote,

It happened again. My flatmate’s father, who is here from Lagos, learned that my family is a day’s drive away in North Carolina. His first question: did I hope to have a family of my own, meaning husband and kiddos; wasn't I lonely, didn't I think I was missing out, etc. The fact that his own son is standing right there, and is 100% unmarried and not dating, didn’t appear to deserve mention, though I guess that could be a well-covered topic between them.

Still. Some days I think it would be easier if I was gay and was doing the whole chastity thing out of some kind of moral/religious conviction. That would make sense to folks, but if there's a graceful way to keep people from getting all up in my business on this one, I'm yet to find it.

And I know I talk about flatmate connections, but that's really because he's the one I'm around when I have time to write. It happens at work, too. The fact that a person can be completely happy with a life not centered around carrying for a spouse and/or family seems just unfathomable.

I do have a family, you know. They're called friends.
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